5 Critical Errors Men Make That Prevent Them From Finding The Job And Career They Crave!


5. Not Knowing Your Strengths – Your strengths are both the things you are already good at and the things you have the potential to be great at in your job and during your career.

The importance of this may seem simple and straightforward but here it is nonetheless: when you do what you are good at you are much more likely to succeed then when you do something you are not good! Furthermore, this gives you happiness and confidence because the results reflect on your abilities! In fact, those that do what they are good at are 6 times more likely to be emotionally engage at their work, 6 times! They are also 3 times more likely to have a high quality of life!

So how do you do you find out what your strengths and potential strengths are for work, for a job and for your career?

1) The first thing you can do is reflect on your own experiences.

2) The 2nd thing you can do is ask others what they see in you. Often people who know you well have insights about you that you do not.

3) Finally use the tests that are available to you! StrengthsFinder 2.0 byGallup has over 40 years of research in over 60 different countries involving millions of people! Needless to say it’s very accurate and effective!


4. Doing What You “Should” vs What You Want For Your Job And Your Career– This means doing what is mistakenly might be  thought of as “practical” or “rational” instead of doing what you are passionate and excited about. But how much sense does it make to do something you are not passionate about? How much sense does it make to avoid what you are passionate about?

Doing what is practical and rational is not the opposite of doing what you are excited and passionate about! As I mentioned earlier, how logical is it to cut the passion out of your work, job and career? Knowing and doing what energizes you, fills you up and causes you to be excited goes as long way in determining how successful you will be! It’s simple! How much more effective would you be at what you are doing if you had more energy and passion? It’s the difference between checking what time it is so you can leave work and wanting to stay late!

Think about something you love doing, something you make time for. How do you feel when you are doing this thing? You feel great and you work really hard at it! Time speeds by! Well you can have the same feeling or at least a very similar feeling at work, in your job and during your career or at least something similar that is a huge improvement from what you are experiencing right now. This is great place to be because instead of having to find ways to motivate your self to keep going, you have to find ways to stop working!

How do you do this? This requires that you know your values and interests.

We all know the activities that we like to do such as the sports we like to play, but what about the underlying values that cause you to enjoy them? These are the values that are broader and deeper than just the actions you find them in. For example, you may love hockey, but how do you play hockey in your career? Most likely you cant, but you can find out the foundational values in hockey such as teamwork, clear results, challenge and competition that you are honouring and deliberately apply them to your choices in your career! To do this, explore the things you like and find the deeper values. You can also think about your peak experiences in your life those days, hours and moments that are some of your best ever, that you wish could just keep going forever. The reason they stand out in your mind and felt so good is because your deepest and most powerful values were being honored many different times in many different ways!

Next apply your list of values to potential  jobs, work positions and career options and see which are the most closely aligned!


3. Not Tackling The Fear Of Failure –  The fear of failure is a fear we all deal with, especially men and especially when it comes to looking for the right work, job or career! We worry about not accomplishing what we want to and not performing up to our standards and the standards of others!

The fear of failure can be gripping, but even when it’s not debilitating it still causes us to be passive instead of taking action or perform at a lower level than we otherwise would at work, our job and in our career! The power of the fear of failure actually lies in the fact that we internalize it. That is, instead of just believing we have failed at something, we believe that we are failures! See the difference? We take it on and actually believe that who we are is a failure as opposed to what we did. The good news is this can be changed!

The fear of failure can be destroyed but you have to know how! The key lies in the fact that is very illogical! In particular we often let our results define who we are, especially when it comes to work, our job and our career. Here is an example. Let’s say that one day I did the worlds greatest seminar for men, it would never happen but lets use our imagination and pretend. Next, lets pretend that the very next day I did the worlds worst seminar for men, now that’s actually possible though very unlikely. So what happened? Well if I let my results define my , I would have to believe that some how I magically gained all of the worlds speaking skills instantly only to magically lose them again the following day. How much sense does that make? Obviously none and that is the point! Did my skills and abilites actually change at all? No, not beyond anything minor, all that happened was I used my existing skills really well one day, then not the other. Perhaps it was the situation or something else in my life, who knows! The point is letting your results define you makes no sense! So remember, that who you are doesn’t change whether you fail or succeed. You strengths, values, character and personality remained are independent of those things. Separate your results from who you are and remind yourself of this daily!


2. Failure to Dream – This doesn’t mean actually falling asleep and dreaming but rather, dreaming and thinking about all of the options that are out there for work, a job and a career! And there are many!

How can you possibly make a good decision about what career to embark on if you don’t have all the options out in front of you? The answer is you can’t. If you don’t take the time to do this or if you can’t imagine what options are available to you for work, a job and a career, you are going to severely limit your job and career possibilities and potentially miss out on something great, something you might be great at and something you could really enjoy!  Just think, how many things in this world would have been accomplished if people had not dreamed beyond what was immediately around them? Not a lot! If you do not dream, you are assuring yourself of one thing at least; not accomplishing anything significant.

So how do you help yourself to dream and collect information so you can make the best decision you can regarding work, your job and your career?

First you have to let go of the circumstances and events that are currently taking place in your life. All they will serve to do is keep you from exploring the possibilities of life by keeping you in the present with life’s present problems and challenges. It’s best to close your eyes and imagine yourself 10 years from now. You see, when you imagine into the future, life’s current problems and challenges fade away freeing you to dream about things you otherwise would never think of or consider!

Another way is to just look around see what is happening around you in the world. What are other people doing and what have they done? If someone else is doing it then start thinking about it! Begin reading books, using the internet and researching any way you can!

Lastly talk to someone who is knowledgeable! Some people specialize in knowing what kind of jobs and careers are available and what they entail. These people are a great source of information!

Dreaming is not an ability but something we must simply be willing to do! There is lots of information out there, so start collecting it!


1. Limiting Beliefs – Limiting beliefs are simply the things you believe about yourself that if true would limit your ability to achieve something you wanted to achieve, in this case at work, your job and in your career.

The key words are “if true”, you see these are beliefs not truths, in other words just because you believe something this doesn’t mean it is true. The fact is, your limiting beliefs are the number 1 thing stopping you from achieving what you want and what you can achieve. The limiting beliefs with the highest impact are the limiting beliefs about yourself. We all have them and they are different for each person. First you must identify them, so spend some time thinking about negative things you believe about yourself outside of work, your job and your career. Some common ones include

-I am not as smart as the people who are on top…

-I cannot work as hard as those who are successful…

-I’m not gifted enough to make it out on my own…

Your limiting beliefs come from how you’ve interpret your experiences in life. That’s right, not the experience it’self but how you interpreted it! The great thing is this means you can re interpret your experiences and give them new meaning! The truth is your experiences mean nothing more than the meaning you give them, which means you are in complete control! This is why a catastrophic failure and dead end to one person is an opportunity and a new beginning for another! They simply choose to view it differently.

So how do you overcome your existing limiting beliefs so you can have the job and career you want?

Start creating doubt! Start questioning those limiting beliefs! Start coming up with as much reasons as possible as to why they are not true! There are many, you just have to find them!

Once you’ve done this, come up with reasons why you are very smart, why you are very capable, why you can be successful!  Then reinterpret the experiences that stand out in your mind and turn them into the positive using this new information!

Lastly, start remembering the things you have done well that you don’t need to reinterpret at all. You may feel hard pressed to find them at first, especially if you’ve buried them deep down and far away. Everybody has successes in their life, focus on them!


-If you want to know how this specifically applies to you as a unique individual in your unique situation at work, your job and in your career…

-If you want to take action, apply this and overcome the barriers and obstacles in your life at work, your job and in your career while using your strengths…

-If you want to stay on track once you’re on track…

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